Welcome to e-SLAA.org, an Online S.L.A.A. Group
Welcome! We are glad you are here. When anyone, anywhere reaches out for help, we want the hand of S.L.A.A. to always be there, and for that, each of us is responsible.
About e-SLAA.org
Membership in e-slaa.org is opened to anyone who thinks they may be experiencing an inability to terminate or set boundaries in a love relationship, an undesirable compulsion to have sex or masturbate, romantic obsession, ongoing avoidance of intimacy, problems with codependency or love addiction, promiscuity, obsessive fantasy, or one of the many other signs of sex and love addiction. The only requirement for membership in Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous is a desire to stop living out a pattern of sex and love addiction. *
e-SLAA.org is one of many Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous groups. To support their members' recovery from sex addiction, love addiction, anorexia, and other closely related issues, these groups meet regularly either at a specific physical location, online at a particular e-location, or via the phone using a particular numeric sequence. Any two or three sex and love addicts gathered together to mutually support one another in recovery may call themselves an S.L.A.A. group, provided that as a group they have no other affiliation. *
For more information, see More About e-SLAA.org below. Also ready about our worldwide outreach effort.
Our e-SLAA.org Meeting Schedule
We have two regularly scheduled meetings and are adding more as chairpeople from different time zones and languages become available.
Great Things About e-Recovery
These are just some of the things our members enjoy about e-slaa.org, in addition to the strong recovery and uplifting meetings, of course.
- Access to weekly meetings for those who have no meetings in their region of the world
- Additional anonymity over face-to-face or phone meetings for doctors, teachers, moviemakers, and government employees
- Provide a helpful introduction for new members who don't know what to expect and want to get their feet wet before appearing at a face-to-face meeting
- Meet people from other countries who are engaged in recovery for sex and love addiction.
- No gas or other transportation or communications expenses to get to meetings if they are a great distance away
- No rent for the meeting room so ALL of your Seventh Tradition donations can be sent directly to your local intergroup (if you have one) and the Fellowship-Wide Services Office
- As the time slots are filled, there will be meetings at various times throughout the day that are convenient for the work and family schedules of people from different time zones.
- Sharing and listening can be silent, so a member can get current with roommates or family in another room.
- Create a new mental connection between recovery and the Internet for those who have had difficulty with internet sobriety.
e-SLAA.org Group Guidelines
The guidelines for participlation in this S.L.A.A. group are expressions of the group's commitment to the Twelve Traditions of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. *
The membership requirements of e-SLAA go beyond the basic requirements of S.L.A.A. membership solely because, whether in face-to-face meetings, on phone meetings, or engaging in online meetings, the First Tradition sometimes must take precidence over the Fifth Tradition when a member's actions threaten the right of the members of the group to meet in a safe place. So that S.L.A.A. will always be able to support our recovery and the recovery of those to come, we must place our common welfare first.*
The guidelines that our group members follow are below. Please read them carefully before joining. Failure to follow these guidelines may result in the termination of your access to e-SLAA.org.
- Respect the stated purpose of e-S.L.A.A., which is to provide a safe, interactive, Internet-based recovery resource.
- Respect the Twelve Traditions of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. *
- Practice anonymity. Your full name or other identifying information shall not be passed along to the community. * ***
- Practice confidentiality. No confidential information expressed should be expressed outside this community. ** ***
- Encourage the recovery of others by sharing your experience, strength, and hope in a positive way.
- Respect the stated boundaries of other members.
- Refrain from searching for partners for sexual or romantic purposes within this community.
- Refrain from interrupting other people during their sharing during a chat room meeting.
- Refrain from criticizing or passing judgments on any people.
- Refrain from language that is likely to be perceived as offensive to others or that is explicit or flirtatious.
- Refrain from mentioning people by name.
- Refrain from mentioning locations or organizations that are likely to pose a threat to the recovery of other members.
* See The Twelve Traditions of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous.
** Confidential information includes information shared by individuals during an e-SLAA.org meeting, within an e-SLAA.org forum, or in an e-SLAA.org message. Expressing includes discussing, repeating verbally, writing about, copying, or otherwise representing the confidential information.
*** Be aware that information shared in the Gratitude Blog is deliberately syndicated in the spirit of S.L.A.A.'s Fifth Tradition, meaning that it will temporarily appear outside the secure area in the interest of attracting those who might benefit from S.L.A.A. resources into the S.L.A.A. community.
Enter Through the Doorway Below
If you are willing to abide by the above guidelines for e-community behavior, you may enter by clicking on the doorway and set up your membership. IMPORTANT: Please do NOT enter your real FULL NAME when you sign up.
There are no dues or fees, and because e-slaa.org is currently an expense-free group of S.L.A.A., we recommend you make a Seventh Tradition donation to your local intergroup and to S.L.A.A.'s Fellowship-wide Services.
Our Recovery Resources
We currently offer our members several services to support their recovery.
- S.L.A.A. topic discussion meetings with a getting current session during the second half (Mondays at 6 PM Pacific Time, 9 pm Eastern Time)
- Internationalization and multilingual support
- A forum for sharing recovery experience
- An outreach forum for discussions related to twelfth-step work, the Fifth Tradition, and public information
- A step study forum for sharing wisdom gained about working the Twelve Steps
- Opened chat for those who want to engage in fellowship between meetings
- An events bulletin board for retreats, conferences, conventions, round ups, and S.L.A.A. social gatherings
- Blogs for expressing gratitude and items of interest
We expect to provide these additional services soon.
- Meetings for non-U.S. time zones (If you are interested in chairing a meeting for your time zone, please join the discussion on this topic.)
- Speaker and step study meetings
- Recovery celebrations for step work completed or years of bottom line abstinence experienced
- Integration with cell phones, for recovery on the go
- Integration with other e-community activity
- Support for S.L.A.A. Conference activities
For information about many of S.L.A.A.'s worldwide initiatives, you can visit the S.L.A.A. Fellowship-wide Services site.
* See The Twelve Traditions of Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous.
More About e-SLAA.org
e-SLAA.org is like any other S.L.A.A. group. Its meeting location is a virtual address. This location is not only where meetings are held for mutual support, but also where healthy conversations can ensue and healthy, recovery-oriented friendships can develop. e-SLAA.org is modeled after a large face-to-face group that provides many services to the recovery community. (We are not a recovery club; we are an S.L.A.A. group!)
e-Meetings are much like face-to-face meetings. The format is about the same, and the originators of e-SLAA.org added in audio for the preamble, the Twelve Steps, and the announcements, so if you have speakers on your commuter, you hear a voice, which helps make e-SLAA.org feel warmer than most e-meetings.
Safety and e-SLAA.org
e-SLAA.org is a safe place to share and hear the sharing of others. There are several measures of safety built in.
- Only group members can participlate or see the things that people share in an e-SLAA.org meeting, so everyone has qualified as a sex and love addict or someone who thinks they have a problem with sex or love before they enter the Meeting Room.
- Everything is erased out of the chat room at the end of the meeting.
- e-SLAA.org provides more physical safety than face-to-face meetings; there is no way for someone to get in your face, and there is no way to be stalked leaving the meeting.
- Because the screen name you pick does not need to be at all related to the name you go by, there is more anonymity, so actors, actresses, other public figures, and teachers can get the recovery they need with much less risk that their membership in S.L.A.A. will be discovered by a member of the press.
- Meetings are moderated, just like face-to-face meetings, but there are more options available to chairpeople for resolving issues and all of those options are safer and simpler than their face-to-face equivalent.
- Chronic aggitators, people who will not stop using triggering language, those cruising for cybersex, and members of the press can instantly be booted from a meeting or loose their membership.
- Those serious about S.L.A.A. recovery seek the safety of the meeting place and refrain from acting out, implying the possibility of acting out, or triggering others and are able to continue to enjoy their e-SLAA.org membership.
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Non-Endorsement Statement
Although a particular hosting service provides the community features of e-slaa.org, the e-SLAA.org Group does not endorse any service provider any more than a face-to-face group endorses the church or Y.M.C.A. from which it may rent space.